Comments on: full moons etc……

By: Bob Black

Bob Black — Wed, 30 May 2007 05:54:25 +0000

David: that’s a poem in itself :))))))))

cheers,
bob

p.s. as for successful marriages between artists/photographers:

‘got another: bob and marina black :))))) (she’s the better spouse and better artist to boot :)))))

By: Tod

Tod — Mon, 28 May 2007 20:34:03 +0000

David,

It sounds like you’re definitely in love. If you need to move to Italy, or Paris, or London, to be near your woman, then by all means do it! You’ve got nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

My wife and I are celebrating our 13th anniversary today. She is the love of my life, and God has blessed me immensely by giving her to me. One thing is for sure, and that is that I don’t deserve her. I’m a very selfish person. We’ve been watching these videos on marriage recently, and I’ve actually learned a bit from them. One of the things that this guy and his wife have been saying is that men want and need to be respected by their woman, and that a woman wants and needs to be loved by her man. If the man is not respected by his wife, then he will not give her the love she needs. Conversely, if the woman feels she is not loved by her man, then she will not give him the respect he deserves. So, if they’re not careful, couples can get on this vicious cycle, which can be difficult to break out of. However, he said that even if your wife is not respecting you, you still need to love her, and that if the man is not loving the wife as he should, she still needs to respect her husband. By doing so, they can get off of this vicious cycle, and thus stay together and also really improve their relationship.

Sorry for rambling on. I didn’t mean to go on so much about this.

Anway, I guess the keys are: respect, love, trust, and definitely friendship. And, like you said, romance, wine and roses, full moons, and fun stuff like that. Speaking of that, I need to figure out where we’re going out to dinner tonight!

Please keep us posted, and I hope it works out well for you with your lady friend!

By: Glenn

Glenn — Mon, 28 May 2007 02:58:43 +0000

Strewth, Yes!

By: David

David — Sun, 27 May 2007 22:39:24 +0000

glenn..

there is an aussie photog who lives across the hall from me and i would have him come over and translate your letter for me, but he is out riding his bike or something…

but, i think you said i should make a few more trips to london????

By: Glenn

Glenn — Sun, 27 May 2007 14:27:16 +0000

Mate, Jude and I were separated for a year and we stayed together on the strength of 3 fanastic weeks over the summer of 03/04 ,one week of which I was away on assignment.
On Paper it did’nt look great,but I wrote down all the text messages in a notebook ,precious,ephemeral things and can see that it was written then and there in my mates kitchen in Darlinghurst the day after I quit my staff job at “The Australian” and was about to start a new life freelancing I met the girl I was to marry.
A couple of paid trips to England helped a bit too ,
Time to arrange some gigs in Old Blighty Me Old Mate?

By: David

David — Sun, 27 May 2007 08:19:47 +0000

thanks julia..

i will pick up that book…i had heard of it, but never read it…

peace, david

By: Julia

Julia — Sun, 27 May 2007 07:22:21 +0000

david,

this topic has been on my mind the last four years and three long-distance relationships i’ve had. i know there’s a path and a person out there for which everything will fall into place eventually.

there’s a book i read recently that was a beautiful evocation of distance, and intimacy, and wanting, and waiting. next time you have a long flight pick up “the time traveler’s wife.” absolutely stunning book that i can totally relate with the life of the creative nomad.

By: martin

martin — Sat, 26 May 2007 20:04:31 +0000

This is your fairest text David…

…and photo…

Martin

By: Ana Yturralde

Ana Yturralde — Sat, 26 May 2007 17:13:13 +0000

I am very sensitive with this subject now… Seems like your words are my words from a couple of weeks ago. Now I do not have words at all. Just want to believe in what I always believed, no matter time, no matter space… just feel and trust what you feel.

Overcome space, and all we have left is Here. Overcome time, and all we have left is Now….

Don’t ever change, David.

Thanks

Ana

By: Dario

Dario — Sat, 26 May 2007 16:08:22 +0000

I met my girlfriend two years ago, in Madrid, looking for a flat. We lived toghether for six months. Now she is living in Argentina and I am still in Spain, waiting to travel to Argentina. There are three long months that I don’t see her, and three long months of mails, calling by phone, and sometimes chating, even if I think theese things are frequently very dangerous, because they can create misunderstanding almost everytimes, even in a very strong relationship.
She is a classical pianist (and I am a half photographer….perhaps!!), and we know that it’ll be frequently to separate. But the LOVE is stronger.
I think the right keyword in theese cases is “SELFISH”. Because the selfish creates problems: you always want your lover with you, pretending all the right attentions for you, and al this is named selfish.
The love is the other thing, It’s a thing that moves through space and time. I konw It’s harder living far (it’s very very hard, I know, I’m trying it), but if it’s for good reasons (especially if it’s for one of your lover reasons) I think the love can resist.
Ciao David!

By: Aga_Luczakowska

Aga_Luczakowska — Sat, 26 May 2007 13:04:54 +0000

great! :-)
maybe some day we all will meet :-)

By: Sandip Debnath

Sandip Debnath — Sat, 26 May 2007 12:26:43 +0000

ofcourse, Aga,if you come to India, or If i go to Poland, we will meet and keep in touch …:)

By: Aga_Luczakowska

Aga_Luczakowska — Sat, 26 May 2007 11:15:40 +0000

wow Sandip! I heart about arranged marriage, but didn’t know one of people who i know (YOU!) have it! wow!

It’s always like this… until some things are not in your environment, you think about such things as about adventure book (I hope you understand what i mean)….
Interesting thing…
I suppose it was not easy for you.. and probably love didn’t come in one second (it wasn’t love from firsth sign)…

for me it’s really something different…
I wish to meet both of you (you and your wife) some day! it’s really interesting for me…

By: Lance Rosenfield

Lance Rosenfield — Sat, 26 May 2007 10:05:55 +0000

trust, friendship, love, mutual respect… spiritual connectedness and physical chemistry.. and a mutual sense of humor! these are a few foundational aspects… i’m coming into this late and i’m going to have to return later… thank you for the views and insight.. ciao for now.. lance

By: Sandip Debnath

Sandip Debnath — Sat, 26 May 2007 09:44:45 +0000

exactly what Aga has pointed out here,”trust and friendship” is the key … i am married for two years now with a girl whom i did not know earlier … it was an arranged marriage ( this things happen in India )… after our marriage was fixed, we saw each other only at the time of marriage,we did not go for any outing, neither a dinner …
… trust and friendship has taken our relationship in a different meaning of life altogether… we have no excuse, no complaint to each other in any matter… we care for each other most … and we love … she is such a gift i got in my life that i will always cherish in my life for … and all because of our understanding and “trust and friendship”… rightly said David .. Sandip

By: Aga_Luczakowska

Aga_Luczakowska — Sat, 26 May 2007 00:50:53 +0000

I think most important is what David wrote… “trust and friendship”… i should repeat this two words every morning… and few times during a day ;-)

By: Edgard Marques

Edgard Marques — Fri, 25 May 2007 23:39:46 +0000

I could say tons of things about this particular issue… I was married too; i divorced, but not in a peaceful mood; i lived a long distance relationship either (she was in Italy and i was in Brasil), although it was only for six months; i’ve got lots of problems to communicate simple things cause i’m so proud of myself, so zealous of my space. And once i wrote 31 stories, little pieces — sometimes happy ones, sometimes not — when was waiting to see my girl again. And i was fulfilled with this feeling that i was actually doin’ something to make it happen. Well, i don’t know how long we’re going to be together as a couple, if we’re going to marry, to have kids and all, but i don’t care. Cause nobody can take from us these things we carry within our memories, our hearts. And i dare to say that’s what life is all about. Suerte, David. Todos la necesitamos.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 25 May 2007 20:58:42 +0000

Maybe..as photographers, we try spend so much time trying to bring out the emotion and feeling of our subjects perhaps we don’t spend enough time trying to invest our emotional energy into those we love.

In the past, religions and society made it difficult to leave a relationship (whether it was justified or not). Times have changed and maybe we are in a new evolution of relationships?

By: Asher Schachter

Asher Schachter — Fri, 25 May 2007 20:41:05 +0000

David, I think it’s no coincidence that the oppotunity to shoot the photo you chose for this piece was the result of you having listened to your son and his friend (“Right Scooter, right”).

By: Sherman Charles

Sherman Charles — Fri, 25 May 2007 18:27:25 +0000

This sounds so familiar. As I mentioned before I was involved in a relationship that went from New Jersey to Stockholm. Very, very difficult. Airport goodbyes are terrible things. We did the email, text messages, chat ..with the internet communication is actually pretty cheap ..but it makes more clear the need for actual contact..messages can never speak what the eyes can ..can never truly replace the communication that happens from mouth to ear, from eye to eye, from skin to skin…

We eventually married & divorced ..I still really wonder why ..I can tell you all the reasons ..lack of communication ..lack of true support.. etc, etc ..but something got lost somewhere and I still don’t know how ..

But I’m with someone who I see constantly and for me it’s a better thing ..the trust is stronger ..the faith deeper ..

Anyhow ..I hope you and your lady bridge the ocean between you two ..life truly is too short ..and love is never long enough ..

Sherman